NOT all people who are involved in these things can fully be considered a victim or a predator. There are simply too many factors involved to put such a horrible title on either party ( im speaking on less violent cases of course, most when they hear sexual crime rape pops into thier head when in fact its not rape or violent) . predators are sometimes in a sense victims before they even make someone else a victim and this is one of the many reasons they victimize someone else. So dont be so quick to judge someone as a horrible rapist which is what most ill informed (also known as an idiot because of being ill informed) conclude. also in many cases the victim is not actually a victim, but is made out to be because of an age difference or position of authority over them. Someone in high school is in most cases capable (unless of course there is a physical or mental handicap involved) of discerning whats right and wrong and therfore should not be considered a victim if they truly are not.. yes you will say but the teacher is in a position of authority so the schoolkid felt obligated in some way or another.. BULLSHITTTTTTTTT!!!! 75% of the time, or the teacher told them they would fail or the student offered sex in exchange for grades… again BULLLSHITTTTT!!!.. majority of the time. What happens is the school or the parents find out and they raise hell and blow it all out of proportion and even so far as to add details to the incident that didnt even happen.. they make the kid think or say something happened just because they are crazy or the detective will have heard the story from the parents and will almost convince the kid that something happened which didnt. Even in therapy if the kid goes they will make them believe more happened because they think that the kid isnt telling the whole truth because they are damaged and because the kid is messed up they start to think it really did happen or will just say it did to move on with therapy.

its disgusting how we parade and in doing so victimize the predator or so called predator. If you watched the news for demetrius busby, whos nake you mispelled with darius** showing that you cared not enough to correct it but more about your blogs and research which i can tell you will never get even close to what you might think as an understanding of the happenings(unless of course you have personal experience as one of the parties) then you would have seen how the police paraded the accused across the street and down the sidewalk just for the news cameras to catch it all and display it like a show. Also if any of you personally knew the man you would be blown away as to how someone as blessed and as giving as him could even consider such acts that would surely end his life long dream and career as a soldier and a teacher of Army JROTC. He helped more people in his lifetime than most of you will ever even think to exist beyond your own self centered worlds of false bias and hatred.

all in all the details get so messed up for so many reasons on both sides that the truth is severely distorted into what the outsiders (people that arent the victim or predator) believe happened, maybe even because the outsider was at one point a victim or predator themselves.

I cant even begin to explain all the reasons or circumstances involved in such a thing as a sexual indecency/crime whatever it may be. Males and females are involved just as much as the other in these things.

and again im only speaking on non violent sexual happenings with no handicaps involved. Im not trying to take away from the TRUE people who are victims or predators. I know most of this is rambling so feel free to post with questions for better clarification.

ALSO if you think i lack the credentials to say all this, think again because i speak from both ends of the spectrum having been victimized at a young age and taking it out by victimizing someone else (still at a young age and both encounters were non violent situations where neither party understood the true ramifications of what was happening, also fortunately both incidents were short lasting and confined) Just because someone makes a mistake in life doesnt always mean they will be a serial offender nor that it is what they want to do always. Before you open your mouth or type on your keyboard take into account circumstances no one without personal experience can fathom.. Not even the most brilliant shrink in the world who is a subject matter expert can say anything without it..

SORRY for the long ramble i was writing as it came to me and writing is not one of my strong subjects but unfortunately i cannot verbally express my knowledge and thoughts on here to the extent that it would take for this subject.